not all honesty is admirable

running into columns like this can sure get an internet explorer up in arms. such bullshit ramblings prove that just about any dough-head can get published. jolly good for aspirerers like me:

My lovely, wriggly, smiley baby is mixed race... One reason for my fear is my own mixed reactions to my daughter. Don't get me wrong, I love her... But when I turn to the mirror in my bedroom to admire us together, I am shocked. She seems so alien. With her long, dark eyelashes and shiny, dark brown hair, she doesn't look anything like me.

I know that concentrating on how my daughter looks is shallow. She is a person in her own right, not an accessory to me. But still, I can't shake off the feeling of unease. I didn't realise how much her looking different would matter and, on a rational level, I know it shouldn't. But it does... I worry that, as my daughter doesn't look like me, people will assume she is adopted...

As for myself, there is an inescapable status issue to address. White women who have non-white children are stigmatised as 'Tracy Towerblocks' living on benefits, most of which they spend on lager and fags. Even if I don't fit this profile, my daughter's difference definitely points out the fact that my children come from two different fathers. If I wanted to pass us off as a nice, neat nuclear family, she would blow my cover at once.

full mockery here.

dear mother of doomed/tragic mixed race baby:

not all honesty is admirable. your insensitive fumblings, a public working-out of your dumbass racism are incensing, not touching. "frightened of others' reactions to her"? - you don't think much of us, do you? frightened of your OWN reaction to her, really. she won't feel any safer or validated if you were to administer an all-curry diet, even in the middle of a delhi slum. bollocks! and to put yourself on par with ancestors of colour is insulting. people will "assume she is adopted"? oh no! the horror! as for showbiz trends - what separates you from angelina or madonna, ms. turner, is that ideas of 'neat' or 'nuclear' seem unimportant to them. all the better for the pigmented kids who'd otherwise 'blow' their 'cover'. cheekiness won't make your racism more palatable - it all spells dire consequences for your daughter. mixed-racers can only do battle against the cruel, cruel world when perceptions at home are of unequivocal, racism-free acceptance and belonging... with or without pakoras.


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